Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Sherlene Stevens: Entertainment of the Dead

As many of you know, my maternal grandmother passed away a few weeks ago (October 1) from kidney and heart failure. Before her recent passing, she was on dialysis for a few years. I know many of you probably have cherished entertainers and similar stories of loved ones who are no longer living in the earth realm. 

As I was preparing my favorite videos list (Youtube) for our global December-holiday theme, I was listening and thinking about so many favorite entertainers, that we all have enjoyed, that are no longer living in the earth realm. Deceased musicians and singers that gave us that favorite song to sing or dance to.  Deceased actors displaying their emotions on the screen (TV, film) or play. Deceased entertainers who, when they were alive, were as real (easy going and nonjudgmental) to us as a favorite relative. Though they're no longer with us their lively actions remain within the entertainment industry (secular or faith-focused entertainment).

Which brings me to my next thought ... Where you ever advised by a faith-believer to not listen to a dead person's song? or watch a movie that includes a particular deceased actor? or listen to replays of sermons of deceased ministers who are no longer with us? Should we or shouldn't we?  Memories---

What does your unique family lifestyle do, do you embrace the fact that the described deceased are gone by not listening, dancing to, or watching them anymore? Or, do you embrace opportunities to do so to display your appreciation for having an opportunity to have been able to be entertained by them?  

Another holiday season is here with or without them.

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Sherlene Stevens: Families Enjoy Thanksgiving, First

Most mail providers have temporary staff during the holidays. You may have a new mail carrier delivering your packages through the end of the year.You may have to express detailed delivery information to new staffer. 2017 is just a couple of weeks away, wow!

Thanksgiving Tips

  • Teach the importance of every individual's self-worth vs. total family-unit activities, at your home style for food prep and other family-oriented activities.
  • Choose to create a dish that will become your special-dish tradition at your home style.
  • Unless on a diet, I would suggest fixing a dinner at home even if you're going some place else for dinner. If you had the time to learn to cook a new food item, what would it be? Maybe next year.
  • Do not cook your turkey four or more days in advance--unless you're going to freeze it. Always discard any left-overs after the fourth day. 
  • How many of you know that you simply can't get the same batter by using certain off-brand products?
  • Look for the "thankfulness" in your local community. What are you thankful for? Allow children to give their answers, too.
  • Have games or activities available for young children while adults enjoy the Day.  Be mindful of little eyes and ears when entertaining guests.  Store alcoholic beverages in a separate refrigerator.
  • Do you have a brand shout-out as a family tradition? Will you donate a canned-good non-perishable food item this year (place in mailbox, toss in box at a local grocery store, give to a shelter/food pantry)? 
  • How many of you have millennials in your unique home style? They are now considered the largest group of consumers in our country.
Family participation suggestion
I would like to support the efforts of stores and non-emergency businesses opening after 6 p.m. on Thanksgiving Day or closed on #ThanksgivingDay. So,  I will highlight stores that have such business hours on Thanksgiving Day--hoping that you will support, too.

Don't shop or similar activities until after 6 p.m.  America values #Familytime.

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Dear People of Color: Things I Wish You Knew

If I could write a letter to us--people of color--from a white person it would be as follows:

Parental discretion is advised.

Dear People of Color:

I have been thinking about you, and I wish you knew that

  • White people are really sorry for the events that led to the African slave trade, but we don't know what else we can do to help in culture unison.
  • White people sometimes feel that African Americans would rather be slaves instead of trying in this new economy.
  • We've always been a broke country and, yes, we used Africans to sustain the USA, or you could say that we used Africans for us to remain here instead of returning to Europe.
  • African Americans care way too much about the "correct" behavior of kids, and materialistic things.
  • White people are not originally from here either.  Are any of us, originally, from this country?
  • The USA was a new home for most Native Americans, too.
  • Maybe we were only actually right about segregated schools, and should have desegregated all other venues a long time ago.
  • There are some white teachers who really care about teaching youth of color, but only really a few truly do. Long-time teachers realize local-districting attitudes and the normal American attitudes of the path of our financially disadvantaged.  That's why you haven't heard much of education from our current two presidential candidates.
  • White people quietly want to know how they're going to be involved in the new future of the modern population. (People of color are now more than half of the American population.)
  • People of color are correct in their thinking about job creation--especially digital or tech jobs. Such jobs are really for us, but when there is too much demand to fill jobs, well, by any means necessary I suppose
  • Believe it or not there are lower-income whites who live in America, too. They earn just as much as low-income people of color. The only difference in them is that they are not publicly debating their life experiences with the current dysfunction of our country's economy--broke.  These are they that got the memo when people of color in this category are still in unbelief, in shock: make the best of what you have, and just be thankful if you have a roof over your head.
  • If you can afford products or services that we make, great. But we target a particular customer group. Can you describe who those people are? If not, boy do you have a lot to learn culturally.
  • Older white people made up the white population of this country, and now most of them are dead with no extended family sets, no children.
  • Older white people quietly want to know if peole of color have enough empathy and morals to honestly care for their needs in nursing homes, etc.
  • Older white people quietly do not understand, really, why people of color are still attending churches and church denomination that they created and founded so long ago. Yes, it's nice to have your tithes, but most of faith believers of color never give enough to pay the selected pastors, bills, or remodeling/expansion of places of worship anyway. Did we really cause the dysfunctional financial attitudes of people of color, when it comes to business, or was it your own public leaders that you admire so?
  • White men hold the finances of this country--ask one of the many white women that are married to one. Some white men run their homes like their offices: dysfunction in and out of their unique households--but all the household individuals are merry when you see them. Do you "really" think the grass is greener on the other side?
  • White people want to belong, to fit in.  We'll take your children of color-- to fit in--if fear invades us enough. Yup, okay, racially blended families we will have [and we will do it with no second thought].
  • So people of color are slowly eliminating traditional holidays created by white people (of European or German traditions/cultural practices).
  • White people realize that people of color would rather have another black president, and it's a little scary when thinking of the activities of the next presidential term. Like you, we have to protect and be concerned about our unique households too.

A typical American white person.

P.S. As a typical American white person, I could be your boss, your coworker, your neighbor, your mailperson, your lawyer, your doctor, your friend, or a faith believer that attends the same place of worship that you and/or your family attend.

Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Sherlene Stevens: New Era, The Fear of Wearing Professional Clothing

Since the recession, I have noticed a new consumer behavior by American people of color. In Ebonics, we don't really dress up anymore for traditional-school pictures, work, or our places of worship. A designers worst nightmare!

In my opinion, people of color have the modern healthcare illness (PTSD)  when it comes to interacting with people who wear professional styles for a living within their work habits (ex. dresses, dress suits, pant suits, etc.). Or maybe it's actually the behavior history of remembering when your parents, magically, on Easter Sunday (or church events) or a traditional school program, were able to afford such attire for you. Yet, they couldn't quite seem to afford buying you that favorite doll, toy, or latest invention back then--that you so desperately begged for every time you went to your local store, right?

Where does this emotion, modern dress-style habits, come from. Have you ever wondered?
  • When we stopped purchasing or wearing such clothing at our unique households. Where are we going to wear it anyway?
  • When we took to more modest religious views during the most recent recession.
  • When we would glance at our modern, local ministers without their robe on Sunday mornings, or that white thing (preacher's collar) around their neck when strolling neighborhoods. Are you able to tell whose a preacher when in a crowd within your local community?
  • When we believed the myth that the only people who wore such clothing were either priests, teachers, or people up to no good in our communities.  No-good activities meaning an individual trying to develop new approaches to community concerns, or the lack of such professional look in the environment.  Did you know that most of our American business schools require you to wear business clothing--at all times? By the way, good luck in finding any-race's teacher who really creates a household budget which actually allocates, or includes the realistic expenses of professional work clothing. 
Unproductive habits or routines can be mistakenly defined as purpose, unique households.

I believe that we are unknowingly (from consistent basic store-aisle shopping) now losing our personal creativity when it comes to clothing styles. We dress in basic colors of darker shades of blue or black [jeans], and find it odd if another is wearing a pair of lime-green jeans. Audience family, next time that you are in your favorite clothing store, glance at the clearance rack. I bet it will be full of quantities of colorful or printed garments that will either be purchased at a fraction of its original value, or discarded because of markdown to its lowest price value of which has no real profit to the store entrepreneur or store chain.