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Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Sherlene Stevens: Flexible Racial Setting Activities

Do you know how to participate at a function when there are other racial identities--and your, you know, the only one?

Now What

  1. Be aware of your surroundings at all times, while participating in the given function. Do you have a cell phone? Did you tell someone where you were going? This may be an inappropriate environment to drink: stay alert of your own gestures and actions.
  2. If someone extends a hand for a handshake or hug don't wipe your hands in front of the person, etc. 
  3. Don't assume that you know everything of the culture and social attitudes of the other race in the setting.  Avoid repeating their words to others that you hear in the setting.
  4. If you don't know something about the setting's activities, ask someone: "What --?" "So what--?" and "Now what?"
  5. "Absorb from others without trying to become somebody else." -Chuck L. (Oct. 2015)
  6. If you are to select the fine-art activities, find out what your audience would like or the current trend. Wait to be invited to dance to familiarize with such actions.
  7. Take mental notes to review for the next time that you are in such racial-group setting.
  8. You are not required to invite them to your next function, or give to their charities of interest.

Activity
Diversity Butterfly   <---- Click here.
Use fine-art tools or materials to create a beautiful butterfly. For February, Black History Month, try to use skin-tone shades of people of color. We will repeat such activity for my hosted theme of White History Month (March, yearly).

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Sherlene Stevens: Secular vs. Non-Secular Dress Code

First, I believe it is important to know what's appropriate-- in regards to clothing expectations at any work or social setting. If you don't know what is expected of you, or you don't have such garments in your closet . . . then what?!

Then What . . .

  1. Job Interview - Ask the hiring manager what is the work setting like-- before arriving for your scheduled interview. Or simply ask, "Is wearing  a shirt and tie, or pantsuit (ladies) appropriate? [When visiting Big Lots, I am always amazed by the casual, work-clothing style for their clerks and stockers: affordable job opportunity, smiles.]
  2. Social Event - Again, as for a job interview, ask the host what clothing would be appropriate. If you aren't able to ask someone, take a long a nice sweater or jacket (use for cover up or it will simply add to your outfit like an accessory). Make certain the added garment is appropriate for the weather or season.
  3. School Event - It really depends on the school choice. Most public schools will require a casual to semi-professional look.  If you are a teacher, I believe, it depends on the subject that you teach.
  4. School Prom - Review the school of choice's policies.  I don't think it's appropriate for a chaperone or staff to wear see-through garments or short dresses (above the knee) at such setting.
  5. First Date - Go for the casual look; you want to be comfortable for wherever your going. Take a long those flat shoes, ladies. It shows that you were thoughtful in thinking of the event. Who knows, your date may want to go for a casual walk after your meal, etc.
  6. Shopping With a New Friend - Casual unless you're going to a boutique. If you will be trying on clothes, try to wear an outfit that has buttons so that you will not mess up your hairdo.
Also, Wear black or tan undergarments: As James Brown would say, "Please, Please, Please." Please wear black or tan bras and/or panties, ladies, when wearing white or very light garments. If not, you are just a nasty girl :) Even if you don't have a slip (full-long [includes your breast area], half [waist down]), wearing black or tan undergarments would be a great asset. You don't want to wear a slip too short, remember that half-slips come in a variety of lengths. Avoid wearing miniskirts or very short skirts, if you are going to be walking up stairs. Men, the new trend of professional white shirts may require for you to wear an undershirt (plain t-shirt or tank top) underneath--even in the summer.  Try to avoid such shirt purchases, unless you will be wearing a suit jacket: all day or during the entire event. 

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Sherlene Stevens: Why Winters is Better than Summer

Source: Parenting (1994). Published with no editing.


  1. No mosquito bites.
  2. It gets dark earlier, so nine o'clock bedtime doesn't seem so bad.
  3. Flannel pajamas (with feet).
  4. Snow days (an ordinary winter)
  5. Hot chocolate with tiny marshmallows.
  6. Roaring fires in the fireplace.
  7. Holiday toys aren't broken yet.
  8. Writing your name on a steamy window with your finger.
  9. It's easier to fake a cold. 
  10. A clean slate with Santa Claus (St. Nicholas, St. Lucia, etc.)
  11. Getting to stomp through slush puddles.
  12. No skinned knees.
  13. Ice-cream cones don't melt on the way to the car.
  14. You don't have to mow the lawn.

Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Sherlene Stevens: Where's the American Business Style of Incoming Foreign Businesses

Should all new businesses have the same traditional, American design layout?

When it's important:
  1. Communities that are in need of community development efforts should strive to have an overall (community-based) business theme which expresses a productive, community and business partnership vision.
  2. Communities that are experiencing new-mjority citizen-neighbor shifts: race or income-household levels.
  3. Business zoning policies may often require specifics of placing business signs, size/color/style of the business sign, etc. Each local community has its own commercial zoning laws and policies.
  4. New foreign company owners--in America--may want to consider blending into the current social format of local businesses. This may mean eliminating your ethnic-identity symbols and posters.
  5. If a community is exhibiting phobias of a new business based on the owner's particular race, creed, religion, or product/service offered.
It is important to blend in socially, sometimes, to be a long-standing and productive business owner and company brand in developing communities within our country. I know of some local community shoppers who would rather not be blinded by neon "OPEN" signs (no matter the size), or an 8-feet stuffed animal in the welcome entrance of new businesses. After all, the customers is always right, right?!