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Sherlene Stevens: Gay Married Men and Family-Centered Holidays

For many marriages, the holidays can be a burden to dysfunctional marital relationships. Did you know that most dysfunctional married-couples separate, during this time of year? Such data reveals that these couples tend to follow through with the formal divorce actions.

 There are many reasons as to why it is believed that couples struggle to remain married--just before and during traditional holidays. I have spoken to "many" straight married women who, let's blame it on the traditional holidays, complain of declines of spousal-bonding and productive emotions. Out of such discussions, these women truly believe the following actions are sure signs that believed straight-husbands may actually be gay or bisexual:

  • Such men refuse to take time out of their plans to be with their wife or immediate family or wife and child(ren). 
  • Such men plan quality time with their male friends instead of with the above mentioned.
  • Such men whine that their wives spend too much time with their child(ren) instead of them. 
  • Such men don't desire for their wives to add children into the marriage. They prefer not to have children of their own.
  • Such men prefer not to spend quality time with their own kids if they are actually a father.
  • Such men all the attention at their unique home styles.
  • Such men don't mind if your menstrual is on, during the holidays. Or they avoid being intimate at all as if a real struggle with their own behavior or sexual actions (but they just might blame their wives).
  • Such men will pick a fight to avoid spending quality time with their wives.
  • Such men will purchase their clothing style, but could care less about buying their wives something.
  • For an outing, these identified men will wear a great outfit, yet  their wives will just have on anything or , what we call, a basic apparel look, and
  • These men are the ones that spend too much man time at other places, especially male public bathrooms.
Ladies, who may be involved in such a marriage or long-time relationship, maybe now you understand such actions of your mate. I just want you to know that it isn't anything you've done wrong (except choosing to remain in such relationship). It isn't your fault for your mate's sexual preference of being gay or bisexual. If necessary, during the holidays, spend time with your friends or family, outside of your unique homestyle.