Children need their own space to grow--even if the area is a small corner in a room within unique home styles. An example, real mothers know that you should avoid buying a majority of children's clothes and shoes that just fit their child for one calendar season. Children need constant care. Children need reassurance (light) and time to grow, to explore in becoming a productive adult. Did you know that a negative or hostile home environment can halt a child's growth?
If children receive too much of a water-down parenting style they will begin exploring the world with no adult supervision. They will grow up in the weeds (bitterness) of life, instead of blossoming or actions of reproducing their good morals and values learned. They will lack (child-development) nutrients of a disciplined mind, how to show and receive love, and how to socialize productively.
The opposite is not too great either to those around them, children classified as receiving too much or too little light. There must be balance in what children are taught at home, by their cultural surroundings and educational environments. No reassurance from home and kids' personal goals, for themselves, will be restricted or hindered. If you are a mother who likes to smoke weed or allows other to do so in your child's presence, at your unique home style, this is, unknowingly, creating a learned behavior of what smokers do. Inhaling weed smoke, over time, will possibly cause a child to lose focus and concentration of learning actions. Certain houseplants will cease growing in a constant smoke-filled room. If adults want to enjoy such freedoms of smoking, I believe it shouldn't be forced on children to see or to smell. After all, even if you close a door or open a window, smoke still manipulates the air in unique home styles. Smoke when children are at school or smoke outside.
In the mentality of it takes a village to raise a child, just like a green leaf vs. a withered-colored leaf, what do we want to produce, really? For out of selfishness, some adults may quickly think and consider verbally expressing "I am living my life ... and kids, well, they have to live theirs." I wonder where they, themselves, have heard such a response? From the adults in their lives growing up? I think parents, sometimes, become frustrated or become bitter because there is no one straight way of instruction to raise children. Humans have free will to achieve no matter the circumstances. Lastly, like diverse-yet-similar leaves on a houseplant, producing productive children is to recognize that all children are not the same ... they vary in skin tone ... (yet hoping all will be the same) they vary in shape and size ... they vary in fulfilling in what may be considered the humanistic actions of a full life [fulfilling personal/traditional/cultural dreams, goals, aspirations].